It has often been asked, “Is conversational hypnosis unethical and manipulative?” My answer always begins with “do you know any manipulative people who don’t know hypnosis?” When we train people in the art of conversational hypnosis we always vet them very carefully to understand their main motivation and end intent for learning this powerful modality for change.
We understand that you are looking to develop and utilise conversationally hypnotic language patterns to create influence, and it is important that you truly know for what purpose do you want to have command of this elegant skill? Conversational Hypnosis has many wonderful and resourcing applications when used with integrity and one of the main uses in everyday situations would be to create influence for the benefit of the listener.
Creating benefits for all whom you interact with is great and we always come back to the core fact that hypnosis by its very nature is a therapeutic tool (there has to be a win/win environment) so the influence that you are looking to create has to be in the other persons best interests. The only other thing that you must be aware of is there has to be consent.
Even when using covert conversational hypnosis techniques in business for selling or managing staff, client and colleague relationships there still has to be consent. So for instance when used in sales and management, the consent comes from the fact that the person has already entered into an interaction to buy or exchange value in one way or another, the integrity comes from your detailed questioning and thorough understanding that the product, service or idea that your selling using covert influencing techniques is very much in the clients/persons best interests to buy or to actualise.
When using conversational hypnosis in a therapeutic or coaching based relationship, where you are helping people (clients, colleagues, friends, family) gain access to beneficial resources that they already have but are not utilising through the structure of their beliefs and or limitations. We always use covert based language patterns with our clients and students which are for the most part out of their conscious awareness even when we are teaching the techniques and the consent comes from the fact that the clients and students have sought out your advice and your guidance in the first place.
To become expert in the use of COVERT conversational hypnosis techniques you must first learn to build the skills overtly this allows you to develop the sensory acuity to constantly monitor the feedback from the person on front of you as to what is going on in their head and are they accepting unconsciously the suggestions that you are weaving into your language. The use of ambiguous quantum linguistics is not something that you can do consciously you need to learn to do it unconsciously and the easiest way to master the art is to use it therapeutically, the feedback of whether you did it well or not is undeniable because the client will have actualised the positive change that they were searching for.
We always teach linguistics overtly first by teaching them therapeutically because through experience we have found this way to be the most effective route to mastery and it allows us time to vet our students, which as a training company is very important to us, as we believe that the power of conversational hypnosis is not for social situations other than for entertainment where again consent must be asked for and given first as any other use would be deemed manipulative and for personal gain and not necessarily in the best interests of the other party.